What does it mean to be vulnerable?

    "Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change." Vulnerability is the core of shame, fear, and struggle for worthiness. It is also related to accepting emotional risk, which comes from the result of being willing to love and being open. On the other hand, it is also a source of happiness, joy, and belonging.  In the Ted Talk, the researcher talked about the connectivity between people. And as the researcher mentioned, in order for connection to happen we have to allow ourselves to be seen. "Wholehearted" people have the courage to realize that they are imperfect, they have compassion by being kind to themselves before being kind to others. They are keen to let go of people that they should let go to become a better person. People numb vulnerability. When people numb or decide not to feel that emotion they also numb feeling joy, happiness, and love. It's that uncertain emotion a person experiences when they venture outside of their caves and start seeing what actually would make them happier and understand life better or take a risk. On the contrary, the way to feel happiness and joy and start loving your life the way it is, a person should stop trying to perfect your life, and stop pretending that someone's actions don't have an effect on other people. Brene Brown conveys that there are two different points of view on how people see life. There is the kind that sees life as a messy place and still is happy about it, while the other type also sees it as a messy place but tries to fix it, therefore never finding delight. 

    One aspect of my personality that lacks, is that I always think about, and bother myself with how people see me as. I'm always concerned. Therefore, I need to work on enhancing my self-confidence and doing whatever comforts me, without thinking about what people could say or think about what I do. And I need to have the courage and accept that it's normal to be imperfect. I need to start thinking of how to make myself happy and start putting myself and my happiness before people.